Imagine that someone you knew went around smashing people's toes with hammers. Just randomly, "Hey, howzit?" SMASH. And it really hurt, but not like emergency room hurt. But really hurt.
I'd think that person was someone not worth knowing. But I know - and have even myself been - so many folks who are willing to treat each other in a total hammer-smashing way emotionally. For some reason that gets a pass, like because it's not physical harm, it doesn't count.
Well, for my part, I'm going to do my best never to go around smashing any toes anymore, even if I'm in a really crappy, smashy-hammery mood.