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Waiting for My Real Life to Begin

Am I doing that which I most wish to do?

Am I waiting for my real life to begin?

There is no time when my "real life" will begin. It happened quite a while ago (35 years this Saturday!) and has been more or less uninterrupted ever since. If I'm not doing what I want to be doing, if I'm not actively engaged in the process of being wholly absorbed by what I'm doing, I'm doing something wrong. It's not going to happen if I don't just do it. I can't say, "Later, when X has occurred." It's just now, because tomorrow is what? Tomorrow is now.

But I am pretty fortunate. Short of actually being a professional superhero, say - or dolphin-feeder, or pirate (or all three!) I think I've got things squared away quite well. My work is good and the rewards excellent. I'm writing, and have had good results. Getting better, even. A future in which I am a full-time professional writer is not unthinkable. A future in which I have a single, steady, healthy romantic relationship is also not unthinkable. In the moment, I'm really just ridiculously lucky to have excellent friends (yeah, if you're reading this, I'm probably talking about you) and live in a remarkably exciting city, and quite comfortably. I'm not meaning to recount my blessings here - I'm just saying, I haven't done a terrible job of pursuing the things I want .. maybe I've goofed off a bit too much and been a little too unproductive. But heck, I generally really enjoy goofing off.

If I am not doing exactly that which I most wish to do, I am at least doing something which is worthwhile and rewarding. And getting better at not getting distracted, too. That said, I'm not beaming from ear-to-ear with happiness, either. It just might not be in my nature - I'm told by nearly everyone who knows me that I "think too much" and they're not suggesting I have an overly prodigious intellect. They mean I insert worrying in places where none is necessary or desirable. To some extent I can moderate that by being mindful - but when I'm down, my capacity to self-regulate thought is limited. This is probably genetic - or at least, certainly runs in the family. Even so, I'm not an unhappy person, either. I think, basically, I'm a generally happy but neurotic person. There are times when the despair seems insurmountable, but those times are always temporary and the clear light of day puts things into perspective. And those times are fairly infrequent, and get less frequent as years go by.

I've over-thought myself out several otherwise good relationships, and overthought myself into hanging onto otherwise bad relationships. I've let those sorts of detachments hold me back from whole-hearted pursuit of a few things - but in general, have managed to muddle through anyway. Basically, I do things. The things I do are often pretty cool, sometimes kind of foolish, and from time-to-time, both. But I do at least do them. There were few enough times when I didn't even try.

At the end of the day, I can say I tried. I did. I made it happen, or failed to - but was rarely complacent.

I think that's good enough. I think. If I keep it up like this, and keel over at a rest-stop in Jersey in my elderly years, I'll have had a lot of fine things to be remembered for - colorful, if inconsequential. But good enough, good enough.

p.s. for an example of overthinking, read entry above.


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Aug. 3rd, 2006 06:51 pm (UTC)
I <3 this entry.

I imagine a career as a dolphin-feeding, pirate superhero would give you plenty of exciting adventures to write about. You should look into it.

Happy almost birthday.
Aug. 3rd, 2006 08:06 pm (UTC)
You are not a professional superhero?

Well I'll be damned.
Aug. 3rd, 2006 08:07 pm (UTC)
More of a hobby.
Aug. 3rd, 2006 09:02 pm (UTC)
Are you kidding??? You are a Superhero! Well, to me at least. You have a great life full of travel and adventure. I want to be you when I grow up. Until then, I will just be your cheerleader. :)
Aug. 4th, 2006 12:41 am (UTC)
Excellent! I wish you continued good fortune in your endeavors to "do things."
Aug. 7th, 2006 01:23 am (UTC)
um yeah, i think you over thought some.. but then, if we don't do that from time to time, what else would keep us in check.

anyway, happy birthday, cause I think that is what started this whole tangent, right?

also, is it bad to think: "I can't do X until Y has happened?" I don't really think so. case in point: I won't have kids until I am married, I won't get married until my career is more stable.... but yeah, waiting for Y to happen could waste a whole lot of time. making things happen is a better approach, but not always so much fun.
Aug. 7th, 2006 07:27 pm (UTC)
relfecting on the past years as your birthday comes up, I think that's just human nature. but from what you wrote it seems that your exciting lived life shall continue to progress to even greater heights. :)
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