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No Sense Pretending

I met her online. I guess that's just not a good way to meet people, you just know too little.

There's no sense pretending I've got anything other than a broken heart right now. It'll be a long time before I can be vulnerable to someone again. I'm resolved not to meet anyone online again, either - someone who I'm going to open up to needs to know a lot more about me before I'll believe any promises she might make - and likewise, of course. Getting caught off guard these last couple of times has been, I think, a big part of why it's been so hard to move past.

Even so, I should be able to move past it. I'm trying to figure that out - make sense of why it's so hard. In the mean time, my friends, forgive me if I'm down. It'll get better eventually.

I'm going to take a long time just doing my own things, and feeling normal, before I take another chance.

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maeris
May. 20th, 2006 11:25 pm (UTC)
Don't give up on the Internet entirely! You just have to be as cautious online as you would have to be if you met someone in a coffee shop or at a club. I met my best friend online and we're getting married next year! However, I still think you need to implement a friends-screeing process. :P Or better yet, let your friends introduce you to their friends. But taking a long time to heal and feel normal before taking another chance sounds like a fine idea.
aghrivaine
May. 20th, 2006 11:34 pm (UTC)
I hear you. It's just that.. when you meet someone online, sometimes they see the very best in you right away - but then get disappointed when they get to know you better.

Whereas, if you date someone whom you already know, they know your good points and your bad - and they've still decided they're interested. Less risky.

I've gotten too badly burned, too many times.
uberneedle
May. 21st, 2006 05:12 am (UTC)
i don't know you that well ags..but i've been burned by teh online thing too. Especially when I flew out to canada to meet him. it truly sucks. Sometimes i think we are all who we really would like to be online, not who we really are. And hence - heartache alround. Anyway..end of useless comment. But I feel for you.
aghrivaine
May. 21st, 2006 05:14 am (UTC)
Thanks. Actually, we didn't correspond much online, I just mean - she answered a personal ad I put up. I think in the future, assuming there is one... i'll confine myself to people who already know me, lumps and all.
dalriada42
May. 21st, 2006 08:51 am (UTC)
*hugs*

I'm too suspicious to date somebody I'm not already at least acquainted with... Can't help you too much. But I can be sympathetic...
dawnbridgette
May. 21st, 2006 10:12 pm (UTC)
Online is a scary place. It takes longer to get past the new shine honestly. Ive meet some wonderful people there though, some who have been in my life now for more then five years. Hell, I met Ellie online hun.
With anything, it has its good and bads.
Im sorry you got hurt.
arisaema
May. 22nd, 2006 02:02 am (UTC)
hugs.
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