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Facebook, drama factory

Facebook may be more trouble than its worth, in a lot of ways. One of the constant little thorns it provides is when friends talk about doing something to which one hasn't been invited.

On the other hand, I suppose it's a useful gauge to whether someone is really a friend or not. On the third hand, that could be a self-fulfilling prophecy; some oversights are unintentional, but if interpreted as deliberate slights can be made worse than they need be.

Whatever the case, I'm left with the lingering feeling that several people whom I consider friends do not feel likewise. I mean, they no doubt think of themselves as friends to themselves, that would be nuts if they didn't. I just mean, I think of them as friends, and they do not think of me as a friend. Here we define "friend" as something more than an acquaintance. Not a Quaker or anything like that. Though I'd be happy if I had a friend who was a Friend in addition to friend. That would be cool, and make for interesting birthday cards, full of puns.

In short - Facebook may be good or bad, but Quakers are definitely good.

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arya
Sep. 25th, 2010 01:08 am (UTC)
I think of you as a friend.

Although I *do* want to steal your girlfriend and totally would given half a chance and sufficient Midleton.
pyr8queen
Sep. 27th, 2010 03:14 am (UTC)
Gee, thanks! :)
nephandi
Sep. 25th, 2010 04:46 am (UTC)
Death or banishment to Quakers is still on the Massachusetts lawbooks, I think. Right next to the witches clause.

Friend is such a fraught term. So many flavors. Like Jelly Bellies.
pyr8queen
Sep. 27th, 2010 03:15 am (UTC)
You know what... F all them if they don't want to hang out with us. We're going to F'ing sail around the world. So F 'em!

Individuals are infinitely better than groups anyways. The individual human is more important than a group of uninteresting or exclusive people.
cacofunny
Sep. 28th, 2010 07:28 am (UTC)
The ironic thing about the Internet is how it's both brought people closer together and farther apart in equal measure. B.I. (Before Internet), people had to engage face-to-face with the occasional phone call between visits. It took longer to get to know someone. Now that everything's online, the growth of a friendship is put on HGH. Strains are doomed to occur at more regular intervals than they did fifteen, twenty years ago.

I wouldn't put much stock into a recent omission. Something could've been misread, assumptions could've been made concerning availability (being in a committed relationship will do that with or without the Internet's help), or people just simply assume that being able to read it was in some way an assumption that you were invited without the actual words being put forth. Whatever the reason, the Electronic Age has made people forgetful of what it was to be friends without Facebook, Twitter or Myspace. Why go to the effort to call or email when a post all your friends can see will suffice?

Then there are some of us who prefer to keep tabs via email and phone like they did back in the Dark Ages. lol
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